
In December, on the very day that follows jolly ol’ St. Nick, traipsing (trudging) soot through the Manor, schlepping (hauling) holiday gifts aplenty, the Mrs. and me, we will be legally married for three years. We’ve been together for just shy of 19 years. There was a bit of lag-time before the Supremes sang out to the world that we are in fact, equal. That our love counts too. Hey, that it happened in my lifetime! Pthui, pthui, pthui… So what, our engagement was long (16 years), and we had a couple of kinder (kids) out-of-wedlock. Nu?
Now, like all of you, we live through sickness and health, for richer or poorer… And what I have learned is that ‘poorer’ carries so much more in definition. Oy vey iz mir (Woe is me)… Poorer doesn’t always refer to insufficient bank funds. Sure we are shy of green and becoming quite the frugalista’s. We are actually quite rich in our poverty! Let me tell you three ways how:
Sleep. They say, a nacht on shlof iz di gresteh shtrof (a sleepless night is the worst punishment). Well, how about 3,285 of them! Yes, our kinder (kids), sweet shana madelahs (little girls) that they are, they lack the skillset to gai shluffin (sleep) like normal children without us mommas in tow. Often times, as we try our best to lull them to slumber, you can hear either the Mrs. or me mumble under our breath, “FCKITY F#CK FCK, will you please just go the F%CK to SLEEP!”
This is a far-reaching problem. It means neither sitter, grandparent, family member, sleep doula, nor even Mary Poppins herself, can lay them down for the necessary night’s worth of zzzz’s. Co-sleeping wee-sized infants have grown into co-sleeping small humans. They stand tall as trees, long limbs kicking, elbowing and stealing our snuggly quilt nightly. Our oversize king mattress, well not so much.
Our sleep bank and our cash bank look all too similar. Oy.

Kid-free zone. I’m talking about ‘alone time.’ Adult time. For schmoozing (talking), to catching up, binge watching Grace and Frankie or Orange is the New Black while spooning on the sofa. Even having actual time to talk about our dear kinder with each other. Taking in ‘a nice meal’ together, when we are both showered, dressed like we put in some sort of effort in the game, and totally tantrum free.
Thankfully, the Mrs. and me, we have some truly remarkable friends who have recognized our severe insufficiency in the ‘kinder-free’ zone and have started with sleepovers. Big, she loves the sleepover, and Little, well, she is trying the best she can. We are not quite there. Last night’s pick-up (mid- Downton Abbey, season 6, episode 3), and todays screeching fits, outbursts and hysterics are proof.
Time. Not great bits of it mind you, but an occasional late slumber, where my body awakens because it’s met some sort of natural and healthful internal quota. Grabbing a shower without a cutie little punim (face) opening the curtain and asking, ‘do I know where her shoes are,’ or, ‘do you have any money.’ Uninterrupted time to poop, alone. Yes, I said it. That would be f#cking amazing.
So my Mrs., as we tackle the richness of poverty in our lives, please know we are in it together, for now and forever. That alone brings me such nachas (joy, pleasure), no gelt (money) can ever buy. I love you my sweet. And those kinder, kaynahorah (warding off the evil eye), they are happy, healthy, wonderful, meshuggeneh (crazy) girls.
Wow, I am rich.
Hnah lebn. Das iz nit a kleyd repetitsye. Enjoy life. This is not a dress rehearsal.
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Happy anniversary! Great post as usual. I’m with you on these three. Never mind, like you say, Enjoy life! #mg
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Oh thank you love! L’ chaim (to life!) #mg 💕✨
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Oh I loved this post. You are extremely rich and how wonderful to have such amazing friends that can give you time together. Thank you for linking up to #EatSleepBlogRT ❤️
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I do feel lucky! 😊🙃😊 thank you so much! #EatSleepBlogRT 💕✨😘
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Yep! That sure sums up parenthood nicely!
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😊🙃😊
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Lovely. You’ve captured my thoughts. Richness is so, so much more than material wealth. A really lovely post. Alison x #mg
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Thank you Alison! #mg 💕✨
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19 years!!! What a milestone and many more years to come!! #bigpinklink
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We’re lifers! 😘🙃😘
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Lovely post so well written, brightened up my day!
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Well thank you! You just brightened mine!💕✨
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Ah a lovely post and I feel your pain, I totally get the feeling richer than material wealth especially at this time of year. Love and best wishes to you and your Mrs for a fabulous anniversary xx #mg
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Thank you Lisa! I will tell her! 😘✨ #mg
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We must have done our linking at the same time, because you are the post before me on #GlobalBlogging and #bigpinklink!
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GreT minds Lucy! How nice ☺️😘☺️ #globalblogging #bigpinklink 😘💕✨
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we may not have a lot of money, we are rich in other ways—that’s our belief at my house anyhow! We don’t have a bunch cash for dates and babysitters, fancy dinners, or expensive items over here, but I’m ok with that, I’m rich in ways that will last a lifetime. Love this post! #globalblogging
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Thanks so much for your kind comments Brandi! Rich is not always green! Have a wonderful day! #globalblogging xoxo
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Lovely post. It is wonderful to reflect on the love we have in our lives and part of that is how we face the challenges of living together.
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Thanks so much Kristen. That really means a lot to me as we are facing some difficulties; all said though, we are rich! xo
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Such a great post. It captures the thoughts of every parent out there! Family really makes you the wealthiest person on Earth.#globalblogging
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It sure does! Thank so much for your #globalblogging comments. Have a rich weekend with that family too! ☺️
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Your girls are gorgeous! Oh my I giggled when I read “Our sleep bank and our cash bank look all too similar” … I feel you on that one!!! But yes, we are rich with so much more than “green”, Lovely post!!..x #globalblogging
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Thank you so much 😊 I know so many can relate to this! Ty for #globalblogging and have a great weekend! 💕
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They should put that in the vows, for richer, for poorer, in sleeplessness and in the bathroom, when your children neeeeeeeeeed to speak to you through the door as you pee. Congratulations (early I know), it will be ours in March I can’t begin to wonder how the time passed so quickly. This is a lovely post, especially at this time of year when there’s so much pressure on us to spend spend spend, it’s not actually ALL about the money! #FridayFrolics
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Thanks so much for your comments. That is exactly why I went with it early! Have a super weekend! #fridayfrolics ☺️
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Ah this sounds so familiar! Happy Anniversary, hope you get some alone tome 🙂 Thanks for linking up to #FridayFrolics
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Ty Claire! #FridayFrivolity ☺️
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Oh I feel you here! And I love that your little cutie doggie wants to co sleep too! Holly-Rose now sleeps with Aspen, lucky she’s not a big dog! It is hard to get alone time, Adam isn’t ready for sleep overs yet, he has slept at my brothers once,a neat a friend of mine but his sisters were there too. Still I ma not in a rush, but to watch a grown up show without passing it every minute would be a real treat! #mg
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😂😂😂 amazing what we do for these lovable little munchkins! Have a super weekend! 😘💕✨
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Great post! Sounds sounds so familiar. My husband and I have our first date night in months tonight! Might even stay out until 9:00 p.m.
#FridayFrivolity
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Ooh! Do have fun. It’s so important! 🙃☺️🙃☺️ #fridayfrivolity
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As they say the best things in life are free! live life to the full and appreciate what you have not what you don’t. Great post #FabFridayPost
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Thanks so much for your nice comments. #fabfridaypost Have a super weekend 😊
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Happy Anniversery. More people need to follow this example and be happy with what they have in life #fridayfriviolity
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Aww… this is so sweet. I wish my OH would be as sweet as you! lol! I hadn’t had a tantrum free time since Ethan’s arrival. That is almost 6 years now… I am so sad! lol! Congratulations! & Happy Anniversary to both of you sweethearts! ❤ ❤ ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful post with us on #FabFridayPost xx
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Thanks Su! We both can hold a count-down to a tantrum free day! And then we’ll have to write about it. Thanks so much for an awesome linky and all of your bloggy share love always! ❤ ❤ ❤ #fabfridaypost
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Happy anniversary, Lisa! Wishing you and your family nights FULL of slumber this Christmas and in the new year to come! 😉
#FabFridayPost
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Thank you SO Much! Wouldn’t that just be lovely! A girl can dream! I to wish you all the best the holidays have to offer, and added in, good health to all! 🙂 ❤ ❤ ❤ #FabFridayPost
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Love this! Time to poop hahah so true. I don’t know the full drama of this (yet) but when my partner isn’t home I have to bring the little one with me, not my finest moment lol. The time to be alone just in general would be looooovely ; ), thanks for the laugh and sharing with #StayClassyMama!
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Thank you! It’s hard to be a #stayclassymama when you can’t poop alone! 🙃🙃🙃
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We have soooo much to be thankful for. So blessed, thanks for reminding us. And for linking up #FabFridayPost
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”Tis the season for thankfulness! Thank you! #fabfridaypost
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How lovely! So true: it is possible to be rich or poor in so many different ways. And having someone to share both with means I much. Happy anniversary to you both! x Thanks so much for joining us for #FrudayFrolics
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I love #Fridayfrolics thank you 😊✨💕
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Hurray anniversary! Thank you for sharing this funny and sweet post at #FridayFrivolity… pinning and tweeting!
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Thank you so much! It will be a happy one! #fridayfrivolity 😘✨
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